Smoke, Mirrors And Violence Against Women

Written by Jasmin

This is a gritty subject and like most I have found myself investigating and researching over the past year, not one that I particularly enjoy. However we have reached a point where it is now past time to expose the truth of our so-called national ‘epidemic’ of domestic violence.

Fundraising frauds, inflated figures, and deceptive misconduct are all part of the strategy to confuse the everyday Australian that we are in the midst of an epidemic.  What we are in the midst of is a rort to line the pockets of women’s lobby group employees to the tune of almost $9million per year, with not one cent going to helping actual victims.

Here is the smoke

Our Watch [1] is a government funded group created to help prevent violence against women. In 2015 it received $4,951,221 in government funding. An astonishing $4,492,231 went to paying ‘clients, suppliers and employees’ in professional consultancy which included $1,116,286 in policy writing and research. I don’t know about you, but if they are being paid millions, I would hope they could report statistics correctly.   More on the ‘research’ and reporting later.

Screen Shot 2015-12-19 at 2.01.14 pmWhite Ribbon [2] is another funded body to raise awareness of violence against women.  They received $3,602,358 in funding and donations in 2015. Employee benefits comprised  $1,895,145 (yes, almost $2m), they spent $305,924 on fundraising, $141,397 on advertising and marketing, a rather lovely $124, 937 went to travel and accommodation. Oh, and whopping $728,937.00 went to “other” expenses.

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White Ribbon reports that only 10% of it’s funding came from government with the rest from it’s beneficiaries which include organisations and individual donors who believe they are doing good for the cause of violence against women. What they are doing however is lining the pockets of women, employed in a media smear campaign to convince you of this epidemic.


What they do very effectively, is feed the hysteria for governments to invest billions into a self perpetuating industry.

Here are the mirrors

The Our Watch & White Ribbon organisations are the most talked about in domestic violence ‘prevention’ across Australia. Naturally, to prevent violence against women only they must push the narrative that it is gendered. Any factual data to take the emphasis away from women as victims will ruin their chance of refunding.  So watch as I show you how they do it because it’s purely a deflection tactic.

First, they attempt to discredit any organisation using raw data from Australian Bureau of Statistics, including the very telling Personal Safety Survey, 2012 or the Australian Institute of Criminology.  Then they use the very clever tactic of the following script.

Violence against women is a gendered issue. 95% of all violence is committed by men and women make up the overwhelming majority of domestic violence victims”.

Did you see what they did? Let me break it down:

  1. 95% of all violence is committed by men – what they are referring to is street violence and violent crimes that are not domestic related. Yes, this is sadly a predominately male domain.
  2. Women make up the overwhelming majority of domestic violence victims – to confuse the consumers and public they intentionally talk about domestic violence after referring to all violence. It’s strange to think if they can draw these comparisons between domestic and all violence, that they can not then draw the comparison between male and female violence.  Such is the nature of skewing statistics when there is millions in funding at stake.
  3. Overwhelming majority – this term is used to create an emotive response. Human’s respond well to injustice and we have grown to become very socially aware and wanting to protect a minority even if that means marginalising others as less important. However the raw data on domestic violence defies this position as you see here:

In September, 2015 the ABS released an experimental data set on Family And Domestic Violence Statistics, 2014  [3] which showed there were 53,847 cases of domestic assaults which police recorded during 2014. Women made up 38,617 victims and men a staggering 15,230 victims of domestic violence. This certainly shows that women were the majority, but with 15,230 men who were victims of women does this really make it so ‘overwhelming’ that we can ignore providing any funded services for them? I don’t think so, and I know those victims don’t.

Of course, the next stage of deflection begins with the damaging and dismissive remarks that men are mostly abused by other men in domestic relationships and so therefore insinuating one of two things, either

  1. most men domestically abused are gay
  2. gay men don’t deserve services.

Both of these are unsubstantiated and false, but a repeated insinuation is a powerful thing to consumers. This is a tactic we see in almost every facet of marketing.  However even if the first insinuation were true, does an already marginalised group deserve to be further pushed to the back of the queue for funding and services?

While we are on the subject of the marginalisation of the LGBTQ community it is important to note that it is excruciatingly difficult to find raw data on intimate partner violence in gay and lesbian couples.  In the USA the National Violence Against Women Survey [4] found just 1 in 5 gay men reported domestic violence, compared to a frighteningly high  more than 1 in 3 lesbians (35%). Now that’s very high and strangely coincides with the number of men who are victims of women in Australia. I imagine this is why women’s lobby groups don’t want to discuss it or make data public.

Destroy The Joint added significantly to this smoke and mirrors campaign in 2015 when it started claiming in early February that “2 women are dying each week from domestic violence”. This fabrication created a myth that is still spouted as true. It came about because in two weeks of the year, 2 women died at the hands of men. This did not happen every week, and the reality at the end of the year was that the figure was less than 1 per week.   You see as it happened only 38 of the recorded 79 females killed  were victims of male perpetrators in domestic context. [5] However once a lie takes hold in the disguise as being factual, it takes a long time for it to die.

These intentional fabrications are what fuelled the campaigns of Our Watch, White Ribbon and of course Rosie Batty to secure a $100m package announced by the Prime Minister. I can see why they were so delighted, and very protective of it.  Mr Turnbull (perhaps unknowingly) repeated their fabrications and granted the money on the basis of lies. He did so entirely at the exclusion of men and their children who desperately need services.  When Senator Michaela Cash gleefully reported that the package included $36.5m to go to staff training and development the picture became clear that it is ‘jobs for the girls’.   None of what they are currently doing is going to the people in need. It is simply government paying women to extract more money from government to pay their wages.

And Now For More Smoke

There are days where I sit with my head in my hands wondering how media can report on domestic violence so erroneously. The following example is a classic case of the utter deception being created through a false narrative.  In May, 2015 Clare Blumer writing for the ABC reported  [6] that police dealt with 657 domestic violence related incidents each day, or one every 2 minutes. A sensational and attention grabbing piece. The article still has a ticker box which escalates by 1 count every 2 minutes for each day of the year! WOW. Screen Shot 2016-01-04 at 2.05.13 pm

So what exactly is the illusion?

The first deception here is the failure to give the gender breakdown of perpetrators and victims which police reports most certainly contain.  This cleverly deceives the reader to believe that all these victims are women, capitalising on the already created fabrications.  Statistically we know that at least 1 in 3 of these victims were men and this is further evidenced in the ABS experimental data set from 2014.

The second deception is as this is family violence not just domestic violence and these perpetrators are not only men being violent to women as we are lead to believe.  Many of these assaults will be against children, siblings or parents and all with a mix of gender in perpetrator and victim. For these family violence related assaults, statistics report that the perpetrator is at least equally likely to be a female for abuse, and more likely to be female for family related homicide.  Breaking this down for readers would certainly disrupt the impact and so this information is omitted from the report.

The third and most obvious deception is to speak of the figures as a whole year, when the tally provided clearly shows that in most of the states the data was collected over a 2 year period between 2013-2015.

The fourth and final deception which I make note of is the somehow elevated and falsified figures the reporter has provided.  As already cited the September, 2014  experimental data set on family and domestic violence for 2014 records 53,847 people. This data excluded Queensland and Victoria due to a different reporting system. For the purpose of comparative data, if we exclude these 2 states the total in the ABC’s report makes 105,696 which is roughly twice what the ABS reports. I am really forced to question how this is so. Both the Australian Bureau of Statistics and the ABC report say they are referring on data by state and territory police.  I’m inclined to believe our national reporting body, so this raised two important questions for me.

  1. Do these figures in the ABC’s report include all calls of alleged family violence, misleading the reader to believe these were all actual violent events?
  2. Is it merely elevated figures from the earlier deception of it ranging over 2 years?

Either way, it doesn’t look good for ABC reporter, Clare Blumer who was perhaps vying for the Our Watch Media Awards for ‘Exceptional Reporting on Violence Against Women’.

As if the apparent misrepresentation of data isn’t enough this ‘story’ just gets worse because it was then re published in BMAG in June, Mammamia  in August and by SMH in November. Of course it then appeared in social media produced by other government funded violence against women groups – all stating it and sharing it amongst millions, as fact.


Australians have been hoodwinked into believing that the two main organisations being paid in excess of $8.5m to raise awareness for violence against women, are doing so ethically and scrupulously.  The fact is they have an agenda to push that domestic violence is gendered, irrespective of the truth.

People often wonder about why they never hear about male victims and their children in the news…..

The men’s movement are asking for a proportional amount of funding to go to services which will assist men and their children when fleeing family violence. Living in a car with your children is awfully hard to bear.

We are all worthy of protection.

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About the author


Jasmin is a specialist men’s coach who supports men in all aspects of relationships, but specifically those who are going through high conflict separation and divorce. She is also a dedicate advocate for services for men and their children who have been victims of domestic violence and abuse.

Jasmin helps men who are struggling and feeling lost and alone, to move to a place of acceptance and confidence so they can move ahead and live a life consistent with their values and beliefs. She believes strongly in the power of overcoming past hurts through empathy and compassion.

She is a mother of two, author, presenter and coach. She lives in the idyllic coastal town of Merimbula, NSW, Australia.

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