Double Standards of Sex & Violence – SNAP

There is a large part of my brain that can’t be bothered to write this, but the hypocrisy and double standards of feminist groups is just so out of control that they need to be called out. So here is my brief 3 minute response as I point on in defence of SNAP Fitness that they are being bullied by a bunch of hypocrites.

Snap Fitness in Spring Hill, Queensland were recently the target of shaming tactics of women who claim to be offended at the sexist nature of the poster seen in the profile image here. According to 7 News in this bit of gutter journalism

A Brisbane gym has come under fire for posting a sexually inappropriate image on their Facebook page, which users claimed promoted domestic violence.

Social media users immediately criticised the business, saying the sexually-fueled picture showed “violence and dominance”.

Wow. What is normal sexual role play for many couples has now been demonised and is considered domestic violence.

I’m not going to argue it’s dominance – many couples thoroughly enjoy it in role play while engaging in a healthy sex life. But violence? Domestic violence? Someone needs their head read.  Many women are naturally attracted to men who are stronger and more dominant than they are, and they don’t deserve to be demonised for their desires in some pathetic attempt to discredit men.

In this article Sex Within Marriage writes extensively about all the reasons why hair pulling is such a turn on. It explores the physiological links as to why it improves sexual pleasure in women. I have to admit I haven’t read it all because quite frankly, I don’t need to know. If it feels good – I do it.

Let’s look quickly at the hypocrites now.

A quick google search came up with a stream of posts from Cosmopolitan magazine. Cosmo was around when I was a teen and we girls would eagerly wait each month to sneak into the the ‘sealed section’ so we could get our sex education. Cosmo targets readers 18-34, specifically female readers.

I came across this little gem where a woman discussed her sexual fantasy of being taken from behind by her teacher. Here some followers disclosed their fantasy dreams. They were even good enough to give graphical images which undoubtedly are a turn on for some.

5 Women Reveal Their Real, Shocking Sex Dreams

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If you check out the link you will see some woman got off on giving a clown a blowjob. It’s certainly not for me to judge, but hey – I’m not a hypocrite either.

In this article also on Cosmo…

What It’s Really Like to Be a Woman Who Loves Rough Sex

Readers who loved rough sex were asked to share their experiences….. 

Woman A: Anything that involves a little bit of danger and experimentation. For me, it usually involves some uncomfortable effects afterward such as soreness or completely losing your voice after giving an earth-shattering blow job.

Woman B: I think it can basically revolve around pretty aggressive/hard sex, but mainly I think of rough sex as incorporating things like spanking, choking, gagging, hair pulling, or being pinned down or pushed.

Woman C: Hmm, I guess being held down, told what to do, hard thrusting, etc.

So Snap Fitness, I really hope you go easy on the guy who made that poster. He has no reason to feel ashamed, no reason to feel guilty, and certainly please don’t let these bullies and hypocrites allow him to be sacked. It’s their MO to demonise men until you all feel ashamed of your every thought and desire, all the while having their own dirty little secrets which are perfectly fine for women to talk about openly.


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About the author


Jasmin is a specialist men’s coach who supports men in all aspects of relationships, but specifically those who are going through high conflict separation and divorce. She is also a dedicate advocate for services for men and their children who have been victims of domestic violence and abuse.

Jasmin helps men who are struggling and feeling lost and alone, to move to a place of acceptance and confidence so they can move ahead and live a life consistent with their values and beliefs. She believes strongly in the power of overcoming past hurts through empathy and compassion.

She is a mother of two, author, presenter and coach. She lives in the idyllic coastal town of Merimbula, NSW, Australia.

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