If you’re looking for the answers to your relationship problems – I’m afraid I probably don’t have them. I know it’s not what you want to hear, but it’s not the end of the world either.
My strongest belief in relationship coaching is that your ‘relationship’ is not a fixable commodity.
Relationships have become something that we treat as kind of a third party and as a result of this, it’s the relationship people try to work on. The reason I believe the usual models don’t work is because spending time with someone else when you are not happy with yourself simply isn’t going to fix things. No one else is responsible for making you a happy, loving and engaged person.
The relationship between two people is in a constant state of flow and the main variable are what each individual are bringing to the table. Each person has to bring the best of themselves for most of the time. You see, we each have a responsibility to be our very best.
Confident, Assertive, Loved (self), Knowing their own values, Strong in their convictions, Solid in their beliefs.
When you stop trying to fix your relationship and start being prepared to do the work on ourselves (men and women) your relationship will be fine.
It doesn’t matter what your partner is doing, until such time as you have done all you can to be crystal clear on yourself. Then and only then will you be able to communicate to them who you are and what you stand for. Usually we leave this until it’s too late and have parted ways.
When faced with relationship breakdowns, there is an equal burden here for both parties. Each of you have a part to play in resolving things, however you must be clear that for each, it starts with you!
You can’t change other people, but you can influence your own outcomes.
Moving forward is a very introspective journey. I won’t sugar coat it, it can be quite raw and sometimes painful. But it also yields the most liberating results that will set you free from all that has been holding you back from achieving happiness with yourself first, so you’re not relying on others to define your outcomes in life.
If you’re ready to find the solutions to yourself first, you will find it an easy path to achieving and maintaining a healthy relationship. If you want to go to the next step fill out this form and we can get the ball rolling.