The Truth Behind Some AVO Breaches

Written by Jasmin

There is something every person needs to know when they read a headline such as the image in this article – and it’s not about women as victims. 

Certain topics among advocates for father’s rights are unwaveringly consistent. At the top of these is the breaches of Apprehended Violence Orders (AVO’s) and Intervention Orders (IVO’s).

While I certainly maintain that orders are orders and they must be followed, you will see in the example below just how easy it is to breach an order, and how vindictive most of these breaches are.

Often it is the case that orders are not clear, or simply place ridiculous restrictions on parents (usually father) who can’t even send their child a present or letter when there has been no abuse whatsoever, just simply a marital breakdown.

Here is a story shared with me today

My ex is using every power within herself and using this system to help her in anyway to prevent me from seeing my children. My ex accused me of [potentially] going to pick up my kids and then ‘wrapping them around a tree’.

Victoria Police ran phone records and it was proven that she actually rang me multiple times. I visited two of my children at their school before I relocated property, it was here that my ex again accused me of attempting to take them out of the school and remove them.

I have statements from the Principle and teachers that I did not do anything of such rather that I had lunch with them and played with them on the playground. I was then asked by the Principle if I would like to stay and watch my eldest daughter perform a song she and her class were working on.

Intervention orders can be placed simply because one party says they fear something. No evidence of that fear or any contributing circumstances need to have occurred in order for a person (usually the father) to be prohibited from contact with their children.

Many men are often encouraged by police and legal advice to accept ‘without admissions’ and IVO or AVO. This essentially means that they agree to the terms but do not agree or concede as to why it was required.

 I consented with no admissions to an Intervention Order. I offered 12 months but she requested 5 years.

I was advised by my solicitor to consent without admissions so we could place all of our energy towards my Family Court proceedings which are being heard tomorrow. My solicitor then prepared another Affidavit explaining my circumstances and submitted that to the Melbourne Federal Circuit Court

I am in court today defending myself as I sent two of my children birthday present back in September 2015. At this time there was an Interim Intervention Order in place and I was living just over three hours away. I moved away to let this chaos settle.

I was asked to do an interview at the Cobram Police Station As I couldn’t get to Pakenham being so far away. The police officers at Cobram were absolutely shocked that they were interviewing me under these circumstances.

I had the Intervention Order Contested hearing on January 20th 2016 and I was then served with the charge of breaching an order by way of communication sending birthday present to my two of my children.

I have now missed their birthdays, another daughter who turned 4 in November and I have another daughter turning 6 in February, which I will probably miss her birthday too.

This is absolutely ridiculous that I am defending myself under these circumstances. THE ORDER DOES NOT SAY THAT I CANNOT SEND MY CHILDREN BIRTHDAY PRESENTS, XMAS PRESENTS ETC. Victoria Police deemed this a breach relating to contact via a present and card.

This is a joke and outright disgusting that a mother of my children can further alienate me from them. I know that my children will be missing me as much as I am missing them and I love them with all my heart…

This example should demonstrate just how easy it is for a breach of orders to be put in place. The outfall of this is hysteria from the violence against women campaigners that a high number of breaches are being violated.

Is it any wonder?

In his case heard today the Magistrate appeared compassionate in handing a 6 months undertaking on a good behaviour bond.

Of course, the real catastrophe here is the un-vetted and sanctioned child abuse that is occurring by forcing a child to become alienated from their loving parent. The trauma that these children must feel is to me unimaginable.  Sadly for many it is a lived experience every single day.

I dread to think what a victim who is genuinely in harms way must feel about the frivolous use of police time is in these matters – not to mention the already over burdened court system.

This story is far from unique or isolated. I hear this day in and day out. It’s just one example of how ludicrous this system is when women have an agenda to keep a loving father removed from their children’s lives.

No wonder women’s lobby groups are trying to silence the voice of men in family court matters.

Image source: Brisbane Times Article



About the author


Jasmin is a specialist men’s coach who supports men in all aspects of relationships, but specifically those who are going through high conflict separation and divorce. She is also a dedicate advocate for services for men and their children who have been victims of domestic violence and abuse.

Jasmin helps men who are struggling and feeling lost and alone, to move to a place of acceptance and confidence so they can move ahead and live a life consistent with their values and beliefs. She believes strongly in the power of overcoming past hurts through empathy and compassion.

She is a mother of two, author, presenter and coach. She lives in the idyllic coastal town of Merimbula, NSW, Australia.

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