The Australian Government is at it again. Let’s throw $30m at a cause to appease the women’s lobby groups. Nice one, Australia. What a joke!
Last year it was $100m to stop violence against women because an inaccurately reported 2 women a week were dying from domestic violence. Apart from the fact the figure reported was a complete myth successfully fabricated by feminist union hideout Destroy The Joint, very little of the $100m was going to victims. Most of the money is going to keep a few opportunists in jobs. You can read about that here.
So let’s talk about a $30m advertising campaign to teach boys to respect girls. First let’s watch this video.
Ah, but this isn’t about women and girls. This is about our violent sons who are going to grow up to be wife bashers, so let’s talk about them.
My son is 9. He doesn’t have a mean bone in his body and neither do any of his regular play mates. I wonder when they will become violent and aggressive? Puberty? High School? Will his innate sense of masculinity one day just kick in and he will come home after a long day at the office and kill his wife?
Or maybe he never will, because he hasn’t come from a violent household. Despite having separated parents, he doesn’t know about violence and abuse. Not ever has he witnessed a violent act from his parents, despite his father’s own masculinity. His uncles and aunties aren’t violent, nor his grandparents. His friends parents aren’t violent toward each other either. Nope, this child has not grown up with violence.
According to feminist theory, he must just be a violent and sexist because he is a boy.
When he was in kindergarten, he was kicked in the stomach by a boy who is on the autism spectrum. It hurt. A few weeks later when asked to partner up with someone he refused this child to be his partner on the basis that he had previously hurt him. To the amazement of his teacher, he gave this child a lesson in self respect by saying
when you learn to not hurt others, I will be your friend.
He already knew that by having his own respectful boundaries of not accepting violence that he would ultimately protect himself.
There was also a particular little blonde girl in his class and he didn’t like her either because in the very first week she had spat at him and pinched him and was generally mean to everyone. It hurt. She already knew not to ask to be my sons partner.
At age 5 my son knew about self respect and he knew that both boys and girls could hurt him.
But I know, this is about girls experience of victimisation and boys innate perpetration however it’s so easy to get off track when you look at humans, not gender.
At aged 15 my daughter can tell you a lot about boys respecting women. She and her girlfriends have a tribe of male friends, all of whom I know as lovely, respectful and caring young men.
I asked her recently if she had ever received unsolicited nudes or any harassment from boys. The answer was no and to her knowledge neither had her friends. I asked her if she thought she had ever experienced sexism, and there was only one time in soccer when her new and perhaps naive coach thought she might need to move a little closer at practice to kick a goal. She was the smallest girl on a mixed team of teens. Was he being sexist, polite or kind? It’s hard to know. (For the record she almost kicked a hole through the net right from where she was standing)
She and I have discussed sexism at school. There was a kerfuffle at one point in her school because a particular girl wanted to play in the boys football match at lunch time. Because of the persistent indoctrination of feminist ideology in school there were cries of sexism because she was refused.
The boys didn’t refuse her because they were sexist – they refused her because they wanted to enjoy some time with their mates in a rather rough game of footy. When I spoke to one of the boys involved he told me that they genuinely just enjoyed bloke time and he felt it was good for them to have their own space. Girls do not have to be included in everything without crying foul in victimhood.
In fact, girls are frequently respected for their own groups which no longer applies to boys. For example, Girls Guides are still 100% female, but because females demanded to exert a right to join The Scouts they have now become 75% of that organisation. Boys are no longer allowed their ‘safe space’.
Before Australia entered into the era of victimisation of all women based on our apparent inherent weakness and frailty, we actually talked openly about the rise of female violence.
In 2009 the Sydney Morning Herald published a telling article “Girls At War: the new face of violence.” The article tells a story of a young man’s birthday party that got gate crashed by 2 girls.
“I asked them to leave and they just started punching,” Sam says. ”They were behaving like animals. They were very angry, big girls, and they knew what they were doing. I have heard about guys who are like that, but I didn’t think girls would be.”
The article went on to state
While the concern over violence has focused almost exclusively on young men, experts say there are worrying signs of rising aggression among teenage girls and young women.
”I think it is growing,” says former policewoman Naomi Oakley, founder of U-Nome, a Melbourne-based security firm and specialist in teen parties.
”It’s seen as trendy. I relate it back to hoons and cars. It used to be just men, but now there is a big surge in the number of hoon women. It’s the same with gatecrashers.”
Health and education specialists and psychologists agree, and their opinions appear to be supported by statistics showing a surge in family violence by girls (often by ”little princesses”), an increase in girl-on-girl attacks in schools, and a rise in the number of women arrested over physical assaults.
Every day we are seeing more reports of violent women in both domestic and the wider community and yet our government has succumbed to the feminist driven agenda that violence comes from disrespecting women. How then do they explain the rise in female violence?
Canadian Professor Raymond Corrado presented an interesting topic of Multi Problem Risk Profiles of Youth in Custody to the Australian Institute of Criminology in 2012. He said
We have in Canada an increasing phenomena of girl violence. It’s gone up as high as 300%. The ratio has come down in male: female from 10:1 (male:female) some argue (that ratio) is down to 5:1 or 3:1
But let’s get back on track again to talk about these violent boys.
In endorsing this campaign it seems to miss the attention of the government that boys are more likely to experience victimisation than girls. These are not violent, angry men – they are children. The Australian Institute of Criminology reports
- In line with victimisation patterns in the general population, males aged 0–14 years have consistently experienced assault at a higher rate than any other type of violent crime. Specifically, males aged 10–14 years were physically assaulted at a rate of 332 per 100,000 in 2005, compared with 361 per 100,000 in 2010. Over the past six years, the rate of assault victimisation for males aged 0–14 years has risen by nine percent.
And while girls may report higher rates of sexual assault (274 per 100,000 compared to 78 per 100,00 for boys) we know that sexual assault against boys is rarely addressed in conversations, vastly under reported and often never spoken about.
It’s curious to note that in conversations about domestic violence which says women’s experience is greater than men’s, we dedicated $100m entirely to women and yet the same logic does not apply to victimisation of our children.
Yes, more women die from domestic homicide than men but 100% of resources go to women because they are the bigger demographic. Now apply that to protecting boys/girls from violence. Suddenly, 100% of the funding goes to the smaller demographic. What does this expose? That it has nothing to do with facts and everything to do with female victimhood.
So while Australia is busy telling boys that they must be respectful of girls, who is letting boys know that being disrespected also happens to them, and it’s OK to talk about it?
Maggie Hamilton is a social researcher and author of What’s Happening To Our Boys and What’s Happening To Our Girls. Here is what she said in her interview for the documentary A Males Tale.
I think there’s a couple of things surrounding the women’s movement that have really impacted boys negatively which we need to look at. We have grown our boys up for 2 or 3 generations now, where largely the focus has been on women, their needs and their safety. All really important. But we have to be terribly careful not to grow our boys up to be so in tune with what women and girls needs that they have no idea on their own needs.
We have become so focused on women and girls that women and girls often have no idea on how to read to men’s pain. Because the focus has been on them, it’s all about the blokes getting hteir act together and them dealing with things they need to work on. And what we have to do is swing that back the other way.
Men have walked across the bridge into the world of women and girls. What we have to do now is to walk the bridge back and then come to a place in the middle where we all come together.
The Facebook page Destroy The Narrative records acts of violence and aggression of women because it seems no one wants to talk about it this glaring problem in our society. So far this year 14 women have been charged with murder. 8 of them in family violence related attacks. 2 other women have been charged with attempted murder.
There are also recordings of many violent acts by women but those that stand out are the young ones.
Sorry, I know I should be talking only about disrespectful boys.
Spending $30million dollars on ad campaign to stop sexism and violence against women is somewhat ironic. It’s a sexist campaign designed to help only one gender and target the other and is a complete and utter waste of money – unless the agenda is to make boys feel bad about being alive.
As we know shaming is a well known, tried and tested way in which feminism attempts to close off any male view point. We have become a nation that does nothing other than demonise men and boys for being male and I fear greatly for the impact this will have on our boys as they continue to grow feeling invalid, shamed and silenced about their experience of life.
There is a definite correlation between violence and respect, but it’s about raising boys and girls in a manner where they are taught that self respect is the most important tool they will have. From there boundaries are set, they take responsibility for their actions and their outcomes and violence will then become a non issue.
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