It clearly irks the feminist sensibilities that in the wake of cries of sexism over the Chris Gayle media gaff, the internet has exploded with support for Gayle and counter cries of reverse sexism, which has called out feminists on their glaring hypocritical position.
Men and women around the world are rapidly tiring of these so-called ’empowered’ women constantly claiming victim status when it is in direct conflict with their own actions. This was evidenced most here with Noula Hafner and here with Sharapova.
I made this post on my personal Facebook page which alone has received over 500 shares and still growing. In social media terms I have a relatively small following and my sentiments were certainly echoed in much larger sites.
However this is about far more than Chris Gayle because the feminist hypocrisy and silencing tactics is what many of us in the front line are seeing repeatedly.
As a woman who cares enough to listen empathetically to men about issues such as sexism, I have had many long standing discussions on this and other sensitive topics that most are not privy to. These are some of the things they have shard with me about sexism they have experienced.
I’m just an every day bloke and women seem to expect all of us to look like Liam Hemsworth.
Women don’t want to date you unless your posting pictures of your six pack. I’m like that, but I am a decent guy who is probably more loyal than the guy they will pick up online.
I was a football player when I was younger and I admit, my body isn’t what it used to be. I don’t expect women to look like Elle McPherson either. I just want to settle with someone who has a good nature.
As the feminist trolls read this they will undoubtedly make comments about ‘cry babies’ ‘bathing in male tears’ and ‘butt-hurt men’ and ‘mansplaining’. All of which add more proof to their hypocritical view of the world. Women want men to be more emotional, yet they ridicule them when they are. They don’t know how to handle the very real need for men to be able to express how they feel, in the face of societies which demonise their every innate trait.
If feminists believe they are oppressed by their gender, why then do they insist on being so damned bitchy, especially to other women? If they don’t want to be seen as disempowered victims they need to stop acting like them.
I was tagged into a post in which a meme was shared a few days ago. It was a very one sided look at human nature, which showed all the horrible things one could attribute to a male perpetrator. Naturally many of us find this both hypocritical and harming to the way men and boys are viewed.
Had myself or any man posted the exact same image in reverse about women, the internet would have had another meltdown with mass reporting and cries of ‘misogyny’. It’s simply not acceptable for men to speak about women in the same way women speak about men.
This meme also reminded me of using skin colour (or hair colour) instead of the gender. Imagine how this would look if they wrote this as “A black man……..”.
‘Reverse’ sexism is everywhere. It exists in the workplace with men being overlooked in employment due to ‘female designated’ positions even when there are no women to fill them. It exists in television and media, with men frequently playing the dumb husband role. It exists in advertising, with male models being used as objects to appeal to the opposite sex. It exists in schools where boys are falling behind and made to feel bad about their gender, but to respect girls. It exists in our social policies regarding caring for all victims of family violence. It exists in our governments, where politicians are afraid to speak out against radical feminist opinion.
‘Reverse’ sexism also exists when men’s groups try to gather to meet to speak about men’s issues. This year on International Men’s Day feminist groups in various parts of the world including Australia and the UK, tried to shut down gatherings where men were planning on meeting in order to discuss issues surrounding their masculinity. Feminist groups in Canada set off fire alarms and generally disrupt gatherings on campus where the Canadian Association for Equality hold their meetings. Two years ago, the first ever International Conference on Men’s Issues was forced to go underground and almost cancel their planned event due to security fears of fire bombings and threats from radical feminists.
The hypocrisy list can go on ad nauseam. Women who watch porn are empowered, men who watch it are demons. Women who cheat were doing so out of desperation, men who cheat are doing it because they are assholes. Women who leave and take children with them are nurturing, men who do it are kidnappers. Women who cut fathers out of kids lives, and somehow the dads are deadbeats. And of course women who kill do it to ‘save’ their kids, when men do it it’s out of a sense of ownership.
Women who are invested in the belief that sexism in 2016 is due to patriarchal oppression are living in a world which judges men today on (their own view) of life many years before most of us were born. This is at best, illogical.
Due to the hypocrisy over the Chris Gayle affair, Australia also trod a very close line of racial discrimination. While most Australians won’t see it that way, it’s fair to assume that Africans around the world may see things differently, and I saw a significant amount of reference to this in comments online. Did reporter Mel McLaughlin deny Gayle’s flirtatious advance on the grounds of his skin colour?
To most of us obviously not, but just occasionally it helps us to have compassion and view experiences through the lens of others. This includes men.