Why Don’t We Celebrate International Men’s Day?

Written by Jasmin

November 19th is International Men’s Day! To all the wonderful, heartfelt, honest, caring men – I salute you. You are the vast majority of men in society, and yet the least recognised for your contributions.

Yes, on IMD around the world men will be going about their day, business as usual. The vast majority of men and boys won’t see it on the news, hear it on the radio or have an event to attend.

Society in large, and media by default, shuns the need for us to celebrate the men in our lives.

I know many men don’t care for the acknowledgement of IMD because they see these celebrations largely as one for women such as the highly publicised and promoted International Women’s Day held in March.

Ironically, this societal conditioning is the very reason we need to start to celebrate men and boys for who they are.

Sadly, there is also a great deal of shame around IMD. Feminists journalists have been telling us for decades now that we live in a Patriarchy, men are evil and violent and responsible for all of women’s woes. Not just men in history, men today – all of them!

In gender politics discussions men are frequently called “whiney deadshits” and called to get their own causes or campaigns, because somehow feminism believes that factors that affect men and women should be gender segregated.

Of course, feminists control the government purse and have been very successful in ensuring that women’s issues are the only issues to be discussed in politics when gender is at play, therefore making it almost impossible for men to have any ‘official’ status of recognition.

There is no allocation of a funds for a conference on men’s issues and no government funded breakfast to discuss the things that matter to men today. Things like suicide, maintaining family integrity, routine male circumcisions, workplace deaths and domestic violence.

If men were to march on the street in protest it would be seen as aggressive or toxic, despite any evidence as such. As we saw with the Australian screenings of The Red Pill this year, feminists can make an rabid, fabricated claims they like and society will by and large just accept that as fact.

Last year the IMD event in Sydney titled “Is Masculinity In Crisis”  had to be moved at the last minute due to complaints that a group of interested people were having a discussion focused on men.  Goodness, how frightening!


The gender political debate from feminists has dumbed down society so far that people believe something because “she said so”.

However despite all of this, and largely thanks to social media, the Men’s Movement is also slowly but surely rising to prominence around the world. Men are speaking up in large numbers. There is a growing band of women supporting men and boys they love. There is social change happening with more people speaking up online in support of men. And then of course we were gifted with the work of Cassie Jaye’s Red Pill, which despite the idiotic protests in Australia, has been a huge success.

Globally we are seeing a shift in mindset to move from the nanny state of nappy pins and safe spaces we have been living in, to one which is set to be more balanced and will make room for the genuine issues facing men and boys to be addressed in a manner that is non shaming, non judgmental, and generally balanced.

Soon, we will see the dedication to men’s issues respected in the same manner we respect women’s issues.

The vast majority of men are good men and I don’t feel I need to justify this to you on IMD. You know what you’ve endured and you’ve stayed the course throughout. You’ve struggled, failed and felt unheard, and you’ve also succeeded, felt immense joy and overcome much adversity throughout the course of your life.

You’ve historically carried the burden of wealth for the family and that’s often come at a personal sacrifice in time with your family or socially, or enduring jobs you disliked in order to put food on the table for those you love.

On International Men’s Day, I give men my thanks for men’s contributions to society, to family, and to those who work so hard in high risk jobs.

Today, on International Men’s Day, 2016

  • I am calling on the men of the world to speak up, make a statement and show solidarity that men’s issues are equally important and that today is a day when we celebrate all that makes you a vitally important and integral part of our society
  • I am calling on the women of the world to celebrate the men in their lives.
  • I am calling on parents to make sure that your sons know that today is their day to celebrate being a boy!

So instead of asking “Why don’t we celebrate” Let’s just do it. The party starts now!

Happy International Men’s Day





About the author


Jasmin is a specialist men’s coach who supports men in all aspects of relationships, but specifically those who are going through high conflict separation and divorce. She is also a dedicate advocate for services for men and their children who have been victims of domestic violence and abuse.

Jasmin helps men who are struggling and feeling lost and alone, to move to a place of acceptance and confidence so they can move ahead and live a life consistent with their values and beliefs. She believes strongly in the power of overcoming past hurts through empathy and compassion.

She is a mother of two, author, presenter and coach. She lives in the idyllic coastal town of Merimbula, NSW, Australia.

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