Why do you stay?

Written by Jasmin

So, I was talking with my friend Adam the other day about why guys stay in dysfunctional relationships.  We were actually discussing just how common it is, that couples stay together even when things are so obviously wrong.

I’m not here to tell you to go or stay, but I will say this.

We are all worthy and deserving of living a happy, fulfilled and satisfied life.  And this is something that we can and should strive for.  Every single one of us.


Often when I’m coaching, I will ask my clients to finish this statement:

When I am happiest, I am…………..

Defining what you’re doing, with whom, when, where is the fastest way to define what happiness looks like to you. If there are blockages stopping that, then you need to address them.

You see, every single moment of our lives we have an opportunity to be the very best version of ourselves.  We have the freedom to chose what we see, what impacts us and what helps or hinders us and to do with it, exactly what we want to.

Everything we do is a choice.

If you’re going to stay, and its not currently working for YOU – then it’s time to work out a way to fix things.



About the author


Jasmin is a specialist men’s coach who supports men in all aspects of relationships, but specifically those who are going through high conflict separation and divorce. She is also a dedicate advocate for services for men and their children who have been victims of domestic violence and abuse.

Jasmin helps men who are struggling and feeling lost and alone, to move to a place of acceptance and confidence so they can move ahead and live a life consistent with their values and beliefs. She believes strongly in the power of overcoming past hurts through empathy and compassion.

She is a mother of two, author, presenter and coach. She lives in the idyllic coastal town of Merimbula, NSW, Australia.

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